While Audrey had friends at her independent school and liked her teachers, the creative child struggled with its pace and focus on academic achievement.

Initially, Audrey’s parents thought their daughter’s request to move schools was just a phase. Perhaps she was having trouble with friends? 

But Audrey’s pleas to move school persisted for six months. During this time she became tired, a little anxious and started resenting homework. Hoping to rule out moving schools, Audrey’s mother, Sophie Lyall, reluctantly booked the family into a tour of independent alternative school Preshil.

As the family strolled through the Kew school’s grand old buildings and rambling gardens, it became apparent that Audrey had found her perfect fit.

“She ended up in the classroom with the kids, making lanterns,” Ms Lyall said. “That was a really telling sign. She felt right at home.”

But knowing when, and whether, to move can be excruciating. 

Dr Christine Grove, Monash University researcher and educational psychologist, urges parents to raise concerns with their school before taking action. She advises waiting for a term and, if there are no improvements, consider moving.

“Often a school may not be aware that something is going on and they could potentially have the resources to address some of the concerns you have,” Dr Grove said.

While changing schools is often the only option for an unhappy child, Dr Grove said parents also need to help children build resilience.

Bullying, a lack of support for students’ learning needs and not getting along with teachers and peers were the most common triggers for moving schools.

It’s now been a year since Audrey moved schools.

“They make learning much more fun,” she said. “It feels like you’re going on an adventure.”

Essentialkids.com.au